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Week 7 – Chapter 4

By September 19, 2015February 4th, 2016No Comments

Week 7-19 (1)

Welcome to week 7.

Week 7 marks the starts of chapter 4. The kids at Quirky Lane head to a garage sale to shop for treasure – and treasure they find. An emotional roller coaster begins when they discover a special game that puts their honesty to the test. We start our activities by trying to ‘rewind’ and ‘replay’ complex social situations. We learn about compromising so we can all ‘win’ a little and keep the peace with our friends.  To consolidate it all, we role play a little more, this time on how to negotiate.

How to use the stories with your child at home:

  • Revise this story together with your child;
  • Discuss your own experiences in relation to similar events;
  • Ask questions about how your child would resolve some of the events described in the story;
  • Explore the emotions each participant experience with focus no empathy and how each emotion ‘looks’ like and ‘feel’ like.

The Activities

The activities in this chapter include pen & paper, art and craft, role play, and puzzle-based activities, concluding with a Fieldwork activity to be done at home in the participant’s own time.

Introductory Questions

Each chapter begins with questions related to the overall theme of the upcoming story. The questions presented in this chapter investigate honesty and integrity and what happens when trust between friends is broken. Participants are first asked to discuss their experiences of dishonesty in friendship and how it feels to be lied to by a friend, before then considering the prospect and the process of making peace with a peer.

The main purpose of asking participants to reflect on instances of lying or being lied to is to facilitate a discussion about trust, honesty and values that are important in a friendship. It encourages participants to consider the effect of their actions on others. Everyone has their own personal boundaries and limits. When it comes to trust, some people can be very forgiving and, for others, breaking trust is inexcusable. This activity encourages participants to think about their own values, their personal limits and the emotions triggered by dishonesty.

Goals for Participants

The goals for participants during this activity are:

  • to consider the impact of lying on a friendship
  • to explore and discuss at least two different points of view
  • to listen and empathise with other participants
  • to compare their own experiences with others in the group
  • to consider their own beliefs about the outcome of lying to a friend.

Replay the Scene: What would you’ve done?

The “Replay the scene” activity allows participants to recreate a playground scene using cardboard cut-outs of characters and to consider their own response to three different social scenarios. The scenarios are designed to trigger a number of different responses within the group. Using the characters provided, participants must practise finding a compromise to resolve an issue with a friend. Participants are encouraged to trial a range of compromises using the characters provided, in order for facilitators to assess each participant’s capacity to be assertive and find a middle ground.

The aim of this activity is to invite participants to practice compromising with friends in various situations. The purpose of practising this skill in the workshop is to boost participants’ confidence and ability to use compromise in their current relationships. Being able to suggest a compromise in the face of a disagreement will help participants to maintain friendships and avoid unnecessary conflict.

Goals for Participants

The goals for participants during this activity are:

  • to practice being assertive with a friend or peer
  • to acquire more ideas about compromising with friends or peers
  • to learn how others may resolve the same conflict with a friend
  • to practice the dialogue required to resolve simple interpersonal problems
  • to recognise that there are many effective ways to resolve problems

Quiz: How Flexible are you

The fact sheet provides an excellent introduction to compromise and shows how it is a useful skill to employ both at home and school. The quiz that follows is an opportunity for participants to consider how flexible they are when compromise is required. For children, compromising can be complex as it may require individuals to let go of something they consider important or special, in order to resolve an impasse. The fact sheet provides a foundation in relation to compromising with friends, while the quiz helps participants relate the issue of compromise to certain scenarios, such as agreeing on a TV channel, sharing a bike or deciding on what game to play.

The purpose of the fact sheet is to share information about compromise, in particular, compromising with friends. The purpose of the quiz is to encourage participants to reflect on their own ability to be flexible. By asking participants to consider if they would be willing to compromise or be flexible in a variety of situations, facilitators are more able to compare participants in terms of their capacity to compromise.

Goals for Participants

The goals for participants during this activity are:

  • to listen to facts about compromise and how it applies between friendships
  • to test their capacity to compromise in different situations.
  • to extend their repertoire of ways to compromise
  • to practice expressing their emotional reactions to finding a compromise
  • to appreciate the benefits of compromise in a friendship

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